“Couples that say “We”.”-A Thriving Marriage Tip of the Month

A recent study at University of California, Berkeley, showed that language has a lot to do with how satisfied couples are in their marriage.
“In a study of Researchers analyzed 154 middle-aged and older married couples talking about disagreements. The conversations between those who used the “we” words went more smoothly and were less physically stressful on both sides.” NY Dailynews.com

The couples that referred to themselves as “I” were less satisfied is this study. “Individuality is a deeply ingrained value in American society, but, at least in the realm of marriage, being part of a ‘we’ is well worth giving up a bit of ‘me,’” said Robert Levenson,

This is evidence that when couples who have a True Commitment to their marriage, they will oftentimes use language to express that. Just like in sports where one team can have an All-star but never win a game, and another team that plays together will. Marriage is about being a partner and exemplifying the team attitude.

So, “If you want to be Happy for the rest of your life”…say “We”. Go Team!

True Commitment is the 2nd Vital Principle for a Thriving Marriage and can be read about at www.travisparry.com.